Every relationship you have in your life starts with yourself first. We have to love ourselves first in order to maintain healthy relationships with others.
Often we become so focused on what others are doing, we forget about what makes us happy and forgetting about ourselves and what makes others happy. We neglect our own needs and in turn become unhappy.
There is an old cliché “how can you expect others to love you when you cannot love yourself first”.
Our society today, teaches us to be modest when thinking about ourselves and this can be perceived as being selfish but the truth is when you are not there to look after you, who else is going to look after you.
Loving ourselves if you are not used to doing this can be hard to learn, but with practice it does get easier inside.
The positives of loving yourself, brings in also self acceptance and due to this we also establish healthy boundaries and being able to choose the people we want in our life’s.
Here are some simple steps to help you love yourself.
1) When you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror look at the person smiling back and you and tell yourself what you like about you.
2) Taking care of yourself, these are simple things like practice self care, getting enough food, sleep and exercise so you have enough energy to carry out your daily duties and by doing all of these things, you will be more productive and more satisfied at the end of the day, as you have achieved all you want to achieve.
3) Focus on your own goals, there is no point looking toward other people and think they are doing more things than you, having a nice time than you. This can lead to negative emotions and we are then not focused on our own goals.
Take time out for yourself
Many people like to have company and prefer to be surrounded by other’s. Spending time alone can be good for you, as it enables you to be happy in your own company.
Again if you like you, others will like you to.
Spending time alone, could mean having a nice relaxing time in the bath, meditation, relaxing on the sofa reading a book. This is taking time out for you and helping you to relax.
Treat yourself well and with love.
In today’s modern society, we can be over analytical, over critical and we get frustrated when things do not go according to plan.
Ask yourself how would you like to be treated by others, then treat yourself in that way.
Remove negative people in your life.
The people we spend our time with have an impact in your life, if people are generally negative toward you, then it is time for you to move away.
Surround yourself with people who are positive and supportive and are happy for you whatever you achieve.
You will find being with people who are happy and supportive are far better for you than people who are constantly putting you down.
Get it of your chest.
Instead of keeping everything locked in, express yourself, don’t keep things bottled up. By bottling things up, your emotions can build and this isn’t healthy.
Expressing ourselves in different ways, examples are art, writing, dancing, exercise can help you get your feelings out in a positive way.
Once you have found out who you are, and we have accepted inside ourselves who we are, then we are being honest with ourselves. We then move into acceptance of who we are and inturn loving ourselves.
Caroline – Crystal Heart Psychics
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