Like many others, who struggle to find their tribe, I spent alot of my life trying to fit in and trying to find a group of people whom I could be unconditionally loved and accepted, while staying true to myself,
I had friends but alot of those friends were from different social circles so I always found it difficult to have that get together.
During my years growing up I always felt I never truly fitted in and there was an element of lonlieness inside of me, then I discovered my spiritual path, connected with people who I felt were on my side for the first time in my life.
In my youth I was the odd one out, the girl who nobody invited and during the summer holidays I would watch the other children go out and sit at home feeling bored.
But even at a young age, I discovered dancing and found some good friends who I am still in touch with many years later and this was my coping mechanism.
I tried to find my tribe, but no matter how hard I tried, I always felt like the ugly duckling following other friends around who were popular being the person in the background. Belonging I never felt, in my mature years I do realise some of this may have been due to being a policeman’s daughter.
When I discovered I was psychic I really felt I had found myself and felt my connection to my higher self, but again in some form this lead to separation because existing friends who didnt quite agree with the psychic way of life advised me they could no longer be part of my life due to my beliefs !
Connecting with my spiritual self helped me connect to who I truly am and helped me work through the previous emotions of rejection and anxiety. Often I look back in my adult years and some of this may have been because my father was a policemen, as a child though you dont understand these things.
In my adult life and my spiritual development I have made many true friends along the way. I have lost friends due to me being Psychic but I am still of the belief
When you have people around you who are for you it means you can be who you truly are. Among these beautiful people who love and accept you for who you are you become braver to be the person you are meant to be and you do find yourself becoming braver. You show them parts of yourself that you have previously hidden, and not only are they not rejecting you- they’re telling you they love you even more because your willing to be imperfect amidst so much pressure to be perfect. Confessions of imperfection come with an added bonus and effectively it showing you as the power of vulnerability.
Tips For Attracting Your Tribe
I believe it is everyone’s desire to be part of a tribe, so if you’re in the process of finding your tribe let me assist in setting the intention to the universe.
When you’re ready to find your tribe, put it out there, ask the universe! Set clear intentions. Ask the Universe to support your desire.Ensure your intentions are pure and of the heart.
You’re special but you’re not special. Sometimes we let our sense of being “different” or “special” get in the way of belonging. Understand that each of us is unique and individual, but we’re also much more alike than it may appear on the surface when we wear masks and lack the courage to be uncool.
Surround yourself with like-minded individuals. Choose things you enjoy doing and join classes that will make you soul sing. Engage in activities that ignite your soul.
Drop the judgment, remember never judge a book by its cover and be open to inviting others in to your inner circle. Judgement can hold us back and sometimes making that judgement perhaps due to the way someone dresses, that person could be out BFF, instead of judging smile and make eye contact.
Be discerning and trust your gut instinct. So judgement and criticism may erect barriers between you and your tribe, you also won’t jive with everyone you meet. This is where discernment comes in. Get clear on the kind of community you hope to attract. Be honest about your own needs and be willing to communicate them. Ask for what you desire and invite others to do the same. Set healthy boundaries but leave your heart open. The most important thing holding a tribe together is a sense of safety with our vulnerabilities.
Call in your tribe. Don’t just sit around and wait for your people to find you. Put your desires out there. The old saying if you dont ask, you dont get !
Don’t be shy. Take action. When you meet people who light you up – the ones you hope will become part of your tribe – be brave enough to invite them to be part of your inner circle. Tell them how much you enjoy and admire them. Be unabashed about your affection and respect.
Biggest tip of all, forget about what everyone else is doing and what their life looks like often it may not be what it seems. Be yourself, Be bold and be Beautiful as you are.
Allow others to come in who ignite you passions and assist you in becoming that person you truly are.
With love and gratitude,
Caroline – Founder of Crystal Heart Psychics